Thursday, July 26, 2012

Newman Gala Auction

The CSC Gala is rapidly approaching (September 29), and you'll soon get your invitation in the mail if you're on the mailing list (anyone is welcome, so if you don't an invitation, let us know). We're using a new system for our silent auction this year that will make the auction even more exciting than usual, so we want to ensure that we have a wide variety of incredible auction items for the Gala attendees.

If you have any fun auction items (new, not used), services, gift certificates, airline miles, credit card points, or bottles of wine that you'd like to donate to the auction, you can bring them to Mass and put them in Jamey's office (make sure to label them!) or contact Jamey at stegmaier@washucsc.org. Every little bit helps to enliven the CSC student ministry!

Also, if you're thinking about attending the Gala, feel free to indicate that on the 2012 Newman Gala Facebook page. It's not an official RSVP, but it will help your friends and fellow community members know who else is attending.

Monday, July 23, 2012

Godweiser Event July 25

Troy and Emma Woytek will be leading a discussion on Theology of the Body and Natural Family Planning this Wednesday, July 25, from 7:00 to 8:30 at the CSC. Beer will be served to those 21 and up.

Friday, July 20, 2012

What to Say to Someone Who Is Sick


Fr. Gary recently gave a homily about what to say (and not to say) to someone who is sick. New CSC intern Matt Schwab typed up some of the advice from that homily for your benefit:

What you should say:

1) "Don't write me back"
Sick people should be able to just receive love and kindness without having to worry about keeping people informed.
2) "I'll be going now"
Sick people are sick. They don't feel well, but they still feel the need to entertain their guests. Don't stay too long. If you offer to leave, but they want you to stay, the sick person will tell you to stay.
3) "I don't know what to say to you right now"
Honestly is the most real way to show them you care. Being at a loss for words opens up lines of connection beyond words such as a glance or just physical closeness.
4) "Please pray for me" 
As you are leaving, ask the sick person to pray for you. You probably need it, and they are truly closer to God than you are. It also helps them to look outward a little, to feel as if they still have something to offer the world.
5) "I just care about how you are." or "I love you"
nothing fancy, just real, honest emotion

What not to say:

1) "Everything will be ok"
You don't know that, and it is an unfair assumption to make.
2) "You look great"
They will think/know it is a lie and wonder why you are fixated on their appearance.
3) "I'm sure God did this for a reason."
God does not cause harm or suffering. God has no part in death.
4) "Be strong"
Most people say this because they are uncomfortable with crying or sadness. The sick person has a right to not be strong.
5) "I know just how you feel"
You don't and can't.

Monday, July 16, 2012

Natural Family Planning Awareness Week


The Archdiocese of St. Louis will be holding a picnic to mark the beginning of Natural Family Planning Awareness Week on Sunday, July 22, at 4:00 p.m. in Faust Park.  Participants are asked to bring their own meals and chairs to enjoy both live music and the chance to meet others in the wider NFP community in St. Louis.  

Please direct inquiries and RSVPs to stlouisnfp@gmail.com or contact Elizabeth at (636) 294-2140.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Student Reflection on Joplin Service Trip

The following reflection was written by CSC member and Wash U student Ellie Kincaid:



A Week in Joplin
Ellie Kincaid
            You know this story.  As soon as you read the words “Joplin, Missouri,” you know what’s coming.  EF5 tornado.  Most costly tornado in American history.  A quarter of the city of Joplin destroyed, by some reports.  That’s what we’ve all heard, what I and other students from the Catholic Student Center at Washington University knew when we headed to Joplin to spend our 2012 spring break serving those affected by the tornado that struck nearly a year earlier.
            As soon as we arrived in Joplin after our four hour car ride from St. Louis, we went to orientation with the local chapter of Catholic Charities.  In the basement of a church, we watched a storm chaser video of the Joplin tornado.  We saw before and after videos of the area hit the hardest, the disaster area.  Little by little, I began to grasp what the phrase “EF5 tornado” really means.  It means a fat column of dark cloud spinning, wheeling haphazardly.  It means piles of lumber where houses used to be.  It means the concrete walls of Home Depot collapsing on a father with his little girls.  It means devastation. 
            At this point, we thought we were shocked.  But then we drove to the federal disaster area.  We drove from a normal-looking town onto a street with emptiness on both sides.  We stopped at what used to be St. Mary’s Catholic church.  All that remained was a large hole in the red ground and a freestanding metal cross about 25 feet tall that marked what had been the front entrance.  Not far away was what remained of St. John’s Mercy Hospital.  The tornado had plucked it off its foundation, rotated it, and set it back down.  Besides a few landmarks such as these and some newly built homes, the disaster area was desolate. 

            On our first full day in Joplin, we reported to Americorps for a work assignment.  We ended up in a cow pasture outside of the city, picking up debris from the tornado with hundreds of other students also on spring break.  The tornado winds had blown pieces of houses all over the land, and cows, being cows, were injuring themselves on bits of insulation and shingle.  We dragged trash bags through fields all day, cleaning up the fragments of a home that had once borne dark grey shingles.  We also found bent and faded photos that we set aside and pieces of toys.  I picked up a tan piece of plastic shaped like a square with an equilateral triangle connected to it.  One side had ridges on it, like siding, and there were little windows cut into the plastic.  It must’ve been part of a doll house once.
The next day, we met a homeowner.  We were assigned to replace the roof on her garage.  At the time of the tornado, she and her family had been renting a house in what became the disaster area.  She described the location to us as between the ruined high school and a free-standing bank vault. 
The homeowner told us her story when we took water and lunch breaks.  During the tornado, she and her family huddled in an interior hallway of the house.  A wall fell on top of them, but came to rest on a bookshelf above them and ended up sheltering them for the rest of the storm.  It hit the woman’s boyfriend in the back, bruising his kidneys, but may have saved their lives. 
After the tornado, all that remained of the house was one corner.  The family had nowhere to go when their landlord decided not to rebuild.  They used money from FEMA to buy a house that had been abandoned for ten years.  The house was so overgrown with brush and plants it wasn’t visible from the street.  It didn’t have central heat or air conditioning, but it was what they could afford in a post-disaster Joplin where so many were looking for a new place to live.  Little by little, they worked on the house to make it livable.  We got to be a part of that process when we replaced their leaky garage roof. 
Most of us hadn’t even been on a roof before spring break, but there we were in Joplin, stripping two layers of shingles off a roof and nailing down a new one.  The work was unlike any work I’d ever done before.  At WashU, when I say I “worked” all day, I usually mean that I did homework and studied.  That type of work is hard and can be satisfying in its way.  But roofing is completely different than studying organic chemistry or reading Shakespeare analytically, even when you’re only on the ground picking up old shingle pieces and carting them to a dumpster.  I can look at the stack of chemistry study problems I did or the essay I wrote and feel proud of my work.  But then I’ll flip the page of my planner and realize that I have even more still do to tomorrow. 
When I worked with my fellow students on that spring break, we built a roof.  We made a family’s situation a bit more livable.  We were a part of building their new life, their rising from the destruction of the tornado.  Together, we did something none of us could do on our own.  I wouldn’t count physical strength as one of my talents, and neither would any other student on the trip.  But our collective physical ability, the sum of our meager muscles, accomplished something amazing.  The day we finished that roof, we could even be proud of our unimpressive physical bodies.  Our weakest qualities became useful and valuable.  That’s satisfaction. 
During one of our lunch breaks while working on the roof, we listened to an army veteran and employee of Catholic Charities describe his experience of the tornado.  He’d been out riding his motorcycle, but when he saw airborne debris he found a ditch to lay down in.  He tied himself down with his belt to keep from blowing away.  He compared walking through the ruined streets in the aftermath to his experiences in combat.  The difference, he said, is “you can’t fight an F5.” 
His words revealed the utter helplessness many felt after the tornado, yet here he was, working in opposition to the hopeless chaos that surely seemed absolute in Joplin on May 22, 2011.  Natural disasters such as the tornado that ravaged Joplin are often called “Acts of God,” but the real place I see God’s action is afterwards, in the rebuilding.  People reprioritize their lives and start anew.  WashU students leave behind their books to raise a roof.  Joplin moves forward.  Here comes new life. 
Early in the morning on our last day in Joplin, we were back in the disaster area.  We came to remove wiring and a few walls from a house.  Most of the lots still only had sidewalks and maybe a few steps up to emptiness that used to be a front door.  But one had something else that had survived the tornado.  Along the sidewalk, a few daffodils poked out of the ground.  I guess the bulbs had been safe underground, even when trees were uprooted.  I hope whoever planted them came back to see how all was not lost that day in May.  I hope they come back and rebuild their home next to the daffodils.  

Monday, July 9, 2012

BBQ for Students

The CSC is hosting a social BBQ for students this Wednesday, July 11, from 6:00 to 8:00. If you're a non-student community member who would like to help out, please contact Mark at zaegel@washucsc.org.